Breakups are tough enough, but when there is trauma from an abusive relationship it is far more difficult and takes a lot of work on the part of the survivor. Harder still is learning that your partner has a Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD).
The feelings of loss and loneliness are overwhelming and seem unbearable. But, there is hope and it does get better. The first thing to do is to save yourself. The NPD partner will not and perhaps can not change. So you must make an exit plan and go out as quickly as possible. This book will be your companion to guide you through the touch times.
Your new life awaits you. It may be hard to imagine now, but before too long things will begin to improve. It is a process and the first step is to break free from the toxic addiction to their abusive strategies. We need to take time for the biochemical stimulant to clear from our mind and body. As we work through the process of recovery there will be an opportunity to build a new life and perhaps a new you. There are no limits to what you can do as you build your new life. It is all about you now.
I wrote this book out of my pain of loss…
I met the woman of my dreams, my soul mate. She was everything I ever desired in a partner. We had a whirlwind romance and after a year of bliss I decided to make it permanent. But within a few weeks of proposing there was a sudden and dramatic change in her personality and behavior. It was like the polar opposite of the woman I fell in love with. So the first challange was to figure out what the heck happened. I soon learned about NPD and I had a severe case on my hands. What was I to do? I wanted to help her get better.
What happened next…
The next year was a parade of attempts to put things right. We went to our church pastor, read books on relationship, went to couples counseling, meditations, talked endlessly… all for naught. It was never her problem, I should not try and change her…everything failed.